In a spiritual marriage neither husband nor wife has any right to demand anything of the other; they only have the privelege of giving.
If we could all keep the focus on ourselves and on giving to our partner rather than criticizing and tearing down our partners, we would not have a society with a 50% divorce rate. Most people are so focused on telling their spouse how they do not live up to their expectations, that they completely forgot all the great things about their spouse that made them fall in love in the first place!